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Ted Nicholas Shared His Copywriting Secrets at the Ted Nicholas Copywriting Seminar.
What is the underlying cause which may hold you
back from the successful, fulfilled and happy life you dream
about?
We've been told all our lives fear of
failure is what stops us from major actions such as:--
Telling the important people in your life that you love them
--
Starting a profitable business of your own
-- Writing a best-selling book (I believe there is at least
one great book in every human being)-- Founding a charity--
Pursuing the romantic relationship you really want--
Simplifying your life -- Adopting a beautiful child--
Creating a successful advertising program -- Voting
Libertarian -- Changing jobs-- Becoming completely debt
free-- Saving at least 10% of your income-- Getting a second
citizenship-- Moving to a new exciting city in your home
country or abroad-- Speaking publicly on a regular basis--
Placing a portion of your assets in another country--
Getting into top physical shape-- Feeling free to express
emotions, including crying.
What do you fear? Do you fear disappointing
your family or friends? Wasting your education? Poverty?
Bankruptcy? Unemployment? Making new friends? Death?
Insanity? Being isolated and alone?
These are all real human fears. Can these
fears be attributed to fear of failure? Fear of failure, in
my view, is not the fundamental fear. I think the "experts"
are dead wrong.
I submit that one underlying fear sabotages
and blocks your success path. It's the ultimate fear. Fear
of success. Consider this. Fear of failure is the fear of
making mistakes and losing the approval of others.
Fear of success is not feeling worthy of all
we are
capable of achieving in life. This is a major self-esteem
issue for everyone. It can be devastating in its
consequences.
Suppose your achievements proved all your
critics wrong? Then what? Suppose you did have the guts to
really go after what you wanted? Suppose you didn't stop
until you achieved the life of your dreams?
I had to overcome my fear of success before
I made it in a big way. My parents really did a number on
me. When I shared my deepest dreams and goals, they tried to
discourage me.
I spoke of having a chain of shops of my
own. Of becoming a millionaire. Of writing a best-selling
book.
"Who are you to want to become successful,
rich and famous," they would say. "You are just an average
person from a middle-class family.
Stop dreaming. Perhaps become a pharmacist.
Or just get a good, safe, secure job. Work hard. Be content
with your life."
My parents weren't trying to hurt me. It was
their
way of protecting me from disappointment. But I overcame my
fears. And so can you.
Imagine yourself independently wealthy.
Being involved only with projects you adore. Traveling the
world as you wish. Enjoying the friendship of brilliant,
interesting people. And all the while keeping physically
fit.
While most of the people in the world do not
fully understand and may even oppose such a lifestyle
philosophically, you confidently know your path is sound.
You can live your life for yourself. And those you love. You
can easily support your favorite charities. And you can know
deep down your way of life is the most benevolent way you
can give back to this beautiful world. The ultimate result?
You will finally be free.
The fastest, most direct way I've found to
over-come fear of success is through expressing a few daily
affirmations. The secret is to say them out loud. You may
feel silly at first.
Initially you may not even believe them.
But, I promise you, they work. Affirmations are deceptively
powerful. You can actually trick your subconscious mind, the
real powerhouse of all our lives. Eventually you will change
your belief system and accept them.
Here are six affirmations I recommend:
1. I completely forgive myself and others
for honest mistakes of the past.
2. I will ultimately succeed and deserve all
the benefits of my achievements.
3. My life in no way depends on what others
think, say or do.
4. I will forge my own path and, if
necessary, am willing to stand alone.
5. I will relentlessly pursue excellence and
be all I can be.
6. I will find a way to give back.
To accomplish anything close to your
potential, you must overcome your fear of success. When you
do, there will simply be no stopping you. |